What Kids Teach You.

I am a father of two. Twins. They just completed 7 months. Your life is very different upon becoming a father. I'm in my mid 20's and most of my friends standards I was early for many things. Including marriage and now having kids! More on that later.

I took time off from my work today to be with the family. Most of the time was spent on arranging my study room which is also our makeshift store room. However I did spent lot of time with the kiddos too. And trust me it was fun. They have this amazing ability to relax you and really make you do crazy things.

However several things crossed my mind. First was their die hard attitude of not giving up. At seven months they have just started sitting down, although they are still not stable once they do that. At times when they do sit they just loose balance and fall backwards. You loose your breath for while watching that! Fairly hard hit mind you. At other times they just fall flat on their face! Of course all this happens in the bed, but then again at their age when muscles are not fully developed it will be hard I'm sure! They cry from time to time, guess it hurts at times too. But the key lesson learned was that they just don't give up. They try to sit up again. As the laws of the universe rule, they do sit up. And they simply enjoy that process. I believe that is because kids haven't learned from us as to how to say no!

What about us. We as parents are certainly concerned and worried about their well being. However even we want them to succeed. Being first time parents we are very concerned! But deep down in our hearts we wanted them to succeed. We always count the number of days till they actually sit down. We always anticipate their success.

When they crawl it's no different. They get down but they get up again. We never keep them down!

How does it all differ when we become bigger? What changes us? I did think about it long and hard. I came up with two reasons.

1. Until the age we start going to school we tend to actually learn, to think creatively, learn the ropes of life and to think! But from the day we step in to the school we are told what to do. It is all pre-determined. We get all comfortable with the process. We tend to accept what is right and wrong.

2. Society plays an important role too. People around us, whom we associate wait until we fail. They'll tell us one hundred and one reasons why we should not do something. At the very first instance you go down, they'll jump at you. Next time around you even think of doing something they'll you why you will not succeed in that.

Isn't this too common in our society.

Guess what? Those who have succeeded in life are those who have defied this common rule.

So what do I think of all this? Time to change and practice it!

"When the going gets tough the tough gets going"

"I might get down but I get up again, you are never going to keep me down"

CSR - Corporate Social Responsibility - Is it a fad or real

Looking at the local corporate sceen almost every company seems to go after CSR. Even the accountancy bodies have recognised this to a certain extent. Social reporting is coming to formal repoting of companies. However it is fair to pause for a while and ask the question, does it really mean anything?

Well, today I had th opportunity to be part of my organisation's CSR program. In a way it sounded pretty typical. Our guys decided to renovate a public dispensary in one of those "not so" developed areas in the city. Our guys approach was very commendable in many ways. They planned things out in detail and not even the overnight rain which continued till noon could dampen their spirits. They pulled their socks and reached the place probably 15 -20 minutes later than the originally scheduled time.

My situation was slightly different. After attending urgent house matters I reach the location around 11.30Am. There were local people and our company staff who were working hand in hand . In a short while I found my self painting upper parts of a wall using a roller brush. I haven't painted before. It is not something that I enjoy either. But......I started doing it. It was fun! When you roll it up and see the paint being spread around you do have a sense of satisfaction.

After sometime I was joined by another first timer, a female who seemed to enjoy brush painting right from the ouset. Within a hour or so we managed to "complete" fairly large room between two if us. I cointinued in the hall area too. Because of my "vertical" advantage I manage to add some value especially in higher areas.

We had about 40 odd staff doing all sorts of things from painting to manufacturing chairs to clearing the garden. There was a sense of achievement in everything that we do. We were ne big family. The usual groupings you find in office was not there.

There was a great deal of team work. Well I thought this is one of the best ways to build team spirit.

Corporate Politics - Aren't we all part of it

Many different people have different opinions on company politics. Some will say it is bad and you should not be part it while the other group will simply thrive on that. Ever since we started working we have been taught to be aware of politics and be out of it.

The golden question is can you actually do that? Can someone really be immune to politics in an organisation where it is thriving. Better than that how would you define "Company Politics". But before that, why do we have politics? Well my guess is that it is all about power. Those who wish to expand the power grid will use politics as the mechanism to do that. Company politics is essentially about exanding YOUR group. In that regard aren't we all partof that? Don't we all have our won little click? Who meets during lunch or go for a beer? When that happens what do we talk?

Anyway keeping that aside, if we focus on typical company politics, we will have to focus on the management it self. We were advised many times not be a player for any executive . In our own words not to be "Mr. X"'s boy. recently a colleague of mine was totally disgusted with company politics. he was mad over it. He was wishing for a day where none of these politics will prevail. It made me wonder, can we really have politics free organisation? My guess is that irrespective of what the comanies preach in their HR mantra about just and equitable, as long as human beings surivive that politics will prevail. Whether you like it or not it is something which you need to acknowledge. I certainly don't mean that you should embrace it. But you need to acknowledge that fact and look at way of playing with politics. After all if you cannot live without that.